Beginner’s Guide to Adult Toys: Where to Start Without Feeling Overwhelmed

Walking into an adult store (or scrolling one online at 2 a.m.) can feel like stepping into another universe. I get it. There are rows of vibrators in every shape, size, and shade. Toys you’ve never heard of. And packaging that ranges from sleek Apple store minimalism to, well, neon chaos. Like, what is even happening here?

If you’ve ever thought: “Where the heck do I even start?” Welcome home, because baby…this one is for you.

The world of adult toys doesn’t have to feel intimidating. Think of this as me holding your hand into a judgment-free, cheeky information space full of helpful tips so you can explore confidently and find exactly what works for you.

 

Step 1: Decide What You’re Curious About

Before you add anything to your cart, ask yourself: What am I looking for?

• Solo play: Want a toy that’s all about self-discovery and pleasure on your terms?
• Couples play: Looking to add a spark to your sex life together?
• Exploring something new: Maybe you’ve heard of suction toys, strokers, or sensory gear and want to give them a try.

Knowing your “why” will help narrow down the overwhelming “what.”

 

Step 2: Start Small (Literally)

What is the best sex toy for beginners? Let's figure out what's right for you. Your first toy doesn’t need to look like it belongs in a sci-fi movie. Beginners usually love:

• Bullet vibrators: Discreet, easy to use, great for external stimulation. 
• Classic vibrators: Straightforward shapes, no frills, just reliable buzz.
• Rings: Perfect for couples exploring together. Voted one of the best adult toys for couples. 
• Small plugs or beads: For those curious about backdoor play (always start small, always use lube).

The goal isn’t to go big. It’s to go comfortable.

 

Step 3: Understand Materials

Not all toys are created equal. Materials matter for safety and sensation.

• Silicone: Body safe, soft, silky. A crowd favorite.
• Glass or metal: Sleek, temperature play friendly, and easy to clean.
• ABS plastic: Firm and reliable, often used in bullets or wands.

Pro tip: Avoid toys that are jelly-like, porous, or don’t list their materials clearly. If you wouldn’t eat mystery meat, you shouldn’t play with mystery toys. Read that again.

 

Step 4: Don’t Forget the Lube

Think of lube as the Lady Gaga of the toy world. It makes everything better. It’s always great to have a few favorites scattered around the places you normally enjoy playing (bedroom, bathroom, make up bag, overnight bags, etc.)

• Water-based lube: Safe for all toys, easy to clean.
• Silicone-based lube: Long-lasting, but don’t pair with silicone toys (they can break down).
• Hybrid lubes: The best of both worlds.

Adding lube reduces friction, makes sensations more intense, and turns “ok this is nice” into “holy smokes, this is amazing.”

 

Step 5: Explore Features, But Don’t Overthink Them

Modern toys can do everything but file your taxes. We kid, we kid. But for real, they can do many things. Suction technology, app-controlled features, pulsations, heating functions, even group orgies from afar. It’s a lot. 

If you’re just starting out:

• Stick to a simple vibrator with a few speeds.
• Once you know what you like, then go wild with patterns, suction toys, or Bluetooth-enabled magic.

 

Step 6: Clean, Charge, Care

Nothing ruins the vibe like realizing your new toy is dead on arrival.

• Charge before first use.
• Wash after every play session (warm water + mild soap or toy cleaner).
• Store properly — many toys come with pouches. Use them.

This keeps your toys safe, hygienic, and ready to go when you are.

 

Step 7: Communication is Everything

If you’re using toys with a partner, talk about it. Let me give you some easy conversation pieces that you can use.

Try lines like:

• “I saw this online and it looked fun. Want to try it together?”
• “I’ve been curious about ___, what do you think?”
• “Can I show you something I think we’d both enjoy?”

When curiosity leads the way, shame has no room to show up.

 

Step 8: Explore at Your Own Pace

This isn’t a race or a performance review. Whether you stay happily in the land of bullet vibes forever or build a collection worthy of its own closet, it’s all valid. Take pride in having toys from all over the spectrum. Sometimes you want something easy, and sometimes you may want all the bells and whistles. 

The beauty of adult toys is that they’re about you. It’s your body, your pleasure, your journey.

Quick Picks: The Adult Shoppe’s Beginner Friendly All Stars

• A discreet bullet vibrator (fits in your palm, packs a punch).
• A silky silicone classic vibe (easy to use, easy to love).
• A couples ring (shared buzz, shared fun).
• A starter plug (for the curious backdoor explorer).

All of these can be found at The Adult Shoppe’s online store, so you can shop privately (we are a discreet adult store), safely (we ship in discreet packaging), and with a little wink from us to you. We've got you. 

Final Thoughts

Starting your toy journey doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Think of it like any other hobby. Begin with the basics, explore what excites you, and don’t be afraid to ask questions or try something new.

Pleasure isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s an evolving adventure. And the best part? You get to decide the pace, the path, and the play.

Go ahead and charge that vibe. Let curiosity take the wheel.